Holidays and Families Do Not Always Mix Well
Boundaries. What are they and how can they help you during the Holidays.
The Holiday Season is quickly approaching. We are often met with growing anxiety at the thought of spending time with family. Maybe you even feel like you are already drained of energy at the idea of gathering with your in laws or siblings. Holidays can be thought of as a stressful time that will rehash hurtful feelings or bring you together with people that do not share your same views. The good news is that you can set boundaries that will give you a tool so you do not have to engage in hurtful conversations or entertain discussions that you do not agree with. In counseling, you can learn what healthy boundaries are and how you can use them to add peace to your life.
Holiday Boundaries Might Sound Like:
“I’d really love to come visit for the holidays but the airfare is out of my budget. Can we plan a virtual meeting so that we can still spend time together?”
”I’m looking forward to seeing you! I’m very busy this year so I will only be able to stay for an hour. Thank you for understanding.”
”Talking about this topic really raises my anxiety so I would rather not. Thank you for respecting that. I would love to hear what is new with you!”
”I can see you feel strongly about this subject. I feel strongly about it too. It may be best to change the subject to keep this an enjoyable experience for all.”
”I am not interested in discussing my life choices or timeline with you right now. Please do not bring that up again.”
If boundaries are tough for you, it may be a good idea to reach out to a counselor who can guide you in the words to say. Take time to practice the boundaries out loud so that they feel less awkward when you’re in the moment and need to set a boundary with someone. Everyone has a different situation but with boundaries in place, you are able to protect yourself and enjoy the Holidays with your loved ones.
We are here for you at Heritage Counseling Center. If you would like to learn more about gaining tools as you work through anxiety and depression or work together overcome life challenges, schedule an appointment in person in our Lafayette office or virtually throughout the state of Louisiana. We specialize in treating patients who who experienced trauma and those who are struggling with addictions, namely porn and sex addiction. We also work with people who are rediscovering their marriage after an affair. Call our offices today to set up an appointment. We would love to work with you on your journey to healing.